Hi, I’m Eric, and this is my personal development blog.
I’m not here to tell anyone what to do or how to live their lives. I’m only writing here about the personal development work that has worked for me.
That being said, I enjoy helping others and so if any of the material here helps you out please let me know, or ask questions.
Here’s what has worked for me
There came a day when I decided that I needed to transform myself. Not my outer world and circumstances, but changing myself.
Of course I am perfect whole and complete just the way I am as an imperfect human being. (Yes, a paradox, perfect and imperfect simultaneously)
My primary focus became changing myself. My thoughts and goals, changing my habits, my mindset, and my beliefs and my attitude.
I decided that whatever needed to be done, I needed to go and do it.
I decided it was time to take control.
How To Do It
I’d like to tell you what I see as the 3 basic steps to taking immediate control of your life, starting right now. (Again, this is what worked for me, so I assume it must work for others too)
Step 1 – Make The Decision
Changing your life all starts with making a decision.
Make the decision that you’re going to do it, and not just leave it as something you’re dreaming about or might like to get started on some day in the future.
This decision is the first big step, because now you are demanding something out of yourself. And since you and you alone are the only one responsible, then there is no question anymore as to what needs to be done about it. You just go and do it, and next thing you know, you’re achieving something. You’re moving towards your dreams, and before you even realize, you are already there, in the life you once thought was not possible to have for yourself.
Step 2 – Take Responsibility
The next step is taking full responsibility for everything occurring in your life.
To really make the changes you want to make, you must accept that you and you alone are now responsible for the quality of your life and the direction you are headed in.
We all have different circumstances and some may have it easier than others and some have it more difficult than others. But what happens to others doesn’t mean anything to your own life and in getting to where you want to go.
So it is definitely essential to accept complete responsibility for your life and put aside any and all complaints about the circumstances or situations that brought you to where you are now. In other words, put all the excuses behind because they will only weigh you down.
Step 3 – Believe In Yourself
You must have a belief that you can do it. That it is possible for you to achieve your goals, get into alignment with who you really are, and find the purpose, meaning, fulfillment, passion and abundance you’re after.
This step is crucial, because if your belief in yourself is lacking, that will be what keeps you from achieving your highest potentials in life. I definitely know this from personal experience.
For those of you who might be concerned about this issue, the good news here is that it is absolutely possible to re-wire your mind to have a powerful belief system. I will talk about this more in depth on this website and in the blog entries here.